logan607 ([info]logan607) wrote,
@ 2008-07-16 08:53:00
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Entry tags:dialogue, discussion

Harvard

Her: I don't understand. Why do these things keep happening to me?
Me: Cause you give your blessings away too early. I think of myself like Harvard: Anyone can apply, but not everyone makes the cut.
Her: I'm not like that. I fall quickly and hard; I'm very passionate. I like falling in love.
Me: How's that worked out for you?
Her: (pause) Touche.

If your life isn't as you want it, I submit that it's that way cause, whether you'll admit it or not, you're getting something from it.

If you're the victim, the doormat, the outsider, I submit that some part of you wants to be that way. Cause you know your lines, you know your cues. You know the role. And there's a comfort in that.

Change is tough. Sometimes it's easier to be the victim - to blame things outside your control. But it's a crap role.

There's this saying that goes, If you keep doing what you do, you keep getting what you get.

Expect more from yourself, then you can expect more from others.

Look, why don't you give yourself permission be the person you wanna be already? Then this stuff'll stop happening to you.

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[info]loki
2008-07-16 01:18 pm UTC (link)
...give yourself permission be the person you wanna be already?

Awesome advice.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 01:35 pm UTC (link)
I wish I came up with that line myself - both:

If you keep doing the same thing, you’ll keep getting the same result.
and
Give yourself permission be the person you know you can be.

are classic Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) mantras. If you like it, you should read up on the topic. It's helped my life greatly in the past two years.

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[info]kudzublossom
2008-07-16 05:29 pm UTC (link)
Thank you. Excellent post.

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[info]rocks_tonic
2008-07-16 01:24 pm UTC (link)
This is a great post. I agree with your Harvard philosophy- I'm the same way :)

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 01:35 pm UTC (link)
Thanks.

And you should. Everyone should.

Just my opinion.

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[info]sabatoa
2008-07-16 02:06 pm UTC (link)
Well said. Great advice for all of us.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 03:10 pm UTC (link)
Thanks Sam.

It's not just for relationships - it's really advice for anything.

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[info]aranka
2008-07-16 02:23 pm UTC (link)
I can't believe I'm saying this but love is no place for armor. At least not if you expect it to work. Falling for everyone who grins at you is a good way to get your heart broken, but that in and of itself is not the victim part. I happen to agree with you that being a victim sucks, but right now I'm also of the opinion that I don't have time for the bullshit that comes with being in love. If you want to be in love you have to accept that a lot of people are going to prey on you. Makes them utter asshats because its a really cheap thing to do, but if you want to be in love you have to be willing to fall in love.

I think. I don't actually know. It's never worked for me so I could be totally wrong. At the moment I'm down for the Samus method.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 03:10 pm UTC (link)
How's that worked out for you?

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[info]aranka
2008-07-16 10:17 pm UTC (link)
Not entirely related to the question at hand and probably something I should ask in a chat, but were you ever a goth?

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[info]stellawas_a
2008-07-16 02:48 pm UTC (link)
you don't know how much i needed to read these words. thank you.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 03:11 pm UTC (link)
Anytime - thanks for the comment.

You should know that nothing ever really matters all that much. And that's a good thing. Things will happen as they do.

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[info]kastinkerbell
2008-07-16 03:54 pm UTC (link)
Heh. I fall hard and fast and deeply. It's worked well for me. Burned a couple of times and then got married. Very happy with my guy. :D

You are 100% right about creating the life you have. Remembering that has got me out of a few mental corners I'd backed myself into.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 05:50 pm UTC (link)
I'm not saying it's not possible - I'm just saying that it's more improbable.

You're one of the lucky ones.

Nice to see you back,BTW...

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[info]jaerik
2008-07-16 05:22 pm UTC (link)
A-fuckin'-men, bro.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 05:50 pm UTC (link)
You're someone else I don't see much of 'round these parts.

Post more too...

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[info]junco513
2008-07-16 06:40 pm UTC (link)
I think it's incredibly sweet that she is willing to keep falling in love after being burned so many times. You have valid points, though. Of course one shouldn't be with someone just to "fall in love" or to be with someone.

Can't find love if the walls don't come down, though.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 10:05 pm UTC (link)
She is incredibly sweet, but I think one needs to be more cautious.

After all, heartbreak is a stressful thing...

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[info]aranka
2008-07-16 10:18 pm UTC (link)
I agree.

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[info]daiseefut
2008-07-16 07:38 pm UTC (link)
Excellent advice! ;)

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[info]logan607
2008-07-16 10:05 pm UTC (link)
I try.

In between the drinking and womanizing, I try.

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[info]adoreme
2008-07-17 06:53 am UTC (link)
saw your post on an add journal add me back?

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hey there
(Anonymous)
2008-07-17 01:56 pm UTC (link)
i would agree with the part that says "expect more from others"... cause i think you are already giving yourself quite a fair bit of pressure...

take it easy pal \(ΘoΘ)ノ☆

LY always (^-^)ノ~~

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