logan607 ([info]logan607) wrote,
@ 2008-06-30 07:12:00
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Current mood: complacent
Entry tags:dating, new york city, random meetings, single life

Front-runners & Back-burners



So my date on Saturday was really fun. Here's the kicker though - wasn't with Heartgirl.

Friday night, meet up with Hazel, Paul, and WM in the UWS. Elle's there with her two friends, one of whom wants to step up to this striking blue-eyed blond bombshell. He leaves without so much as a hello to her so I turn to her: Hi there - lemme tell you story, morning glory...

She's super nice and probably one of the best looking women I've picked up yet. But she's the same name as my mother plus Elle's there; not that I think she cares but still. And my mind's on someone else. I tell her we'll run into each other again and politely eject. Besides, I tell WM, as we exit and turn onto 79th Street, there's always something 'round the corner.

Sometimes, quite literally. Cause I immediately lock eyes with a grey-eyed girlie outside a bar who grins at me and says, Hi there! WM rolls his eyes as I wink at her and say, Howdy.

Me: The best thing about NYC's the random meetings, yeah?
Her: (smiles) Yeah. What's your name?

We had a great conversation but, you guessed it: 22. Fail. Speaking of fail, Saturday, Heartgirl cancels. Again. I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't disappointed. Cause I don't know her all that well, but what I do know, I like very much. Luckily, I'm not one to cry into my porridge:

Me: Dinner and a movie?
Pretty Cake Decorator: I'm not sure. I mean - I don't really know you.
Me: (deep breath) This may not be the smartest idea I've ever had, but...my last name's Lo. Google me.

She swings by and we end up watching two films and ordering in. We somehow find ourselves doing Stupid Human Tricks: I do a split and she touches the back of her head with her toes. We both end up laughing on the floor.

PCD: I'm glad I came over. (pause) But I can see this has potential for a lot of disappointment.
Me: (quietly) Well that's...sad.

There's that word again: disappointment. Isn't that the worst, worst part of dating?

Heartgirl just told me why she couldn't make it. It was a very good reason, actually. But there's always a very good reason to bail, yeah? To quote HEI, everyone has their front-runners and back-burners. To add to that, sometimes you're the front-runner, sometimes you're the back-burner. Just how it shakes out.

While I think Heartgirl and I'll always be friends, there's never a really a good point to stick around, romantically, if you're someone's back-burner. Mrs. Lo didn't raise any stupid sons.

Hopeless romantic ueber-nerds, yes. Stupid, no.

Cause I believe someone'll see what you're worth; you'll be someone's front-runner someday and she'll be yours. Until then we all do just fine on our own.


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[info]sabatoa
2008-06-30 12:14 pm UTC (link)
Nice call my man. Never settle, you deserve to be someone's front runner. We all do.

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 02:40 pm UTC (link)
She's great but I think she's still not over her ex and I've been on the other side of that coin. It never works out well for the back-burner.

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[info]myeah
2008-06-30 01:38 pm UTC (link)
Sorry I have to ask, but did she say what the possible disappoints would be? and the splits eh? Ouch. LOL

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 02:42 pm UTC (link)
I'll answer the first question below but as for the second:

Yes, splits. She was a ballerina and I'm just flexible. It's hard when you're 35 but I try to stay flexible.

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[info]allywest
2008-06-30 02:31 pm UTC (link)
I'd also like to know why she thought it would end in disappointment.

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 02:45 pm UTC (link)
Well, I think it's because things went really well when we got together. So the higher you climb in the beginning, the harder the fall should it end.

She acknowledges the same thing I do, which is that slow and steady is probably the best path to a good relationship. We've both rushed into things in the past and lost interest quickly or had people lose interest in us.

Just how it shakes out sometimes. But the sucker optimist in us keep trying anyway.

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[info]myeah
2008-06-30 03:34 pm UTC (link)
Hmmm...or maybe the higher the beginning...could be the possiblities of the great new heights you would find in the end. Not starting because of 'possible disapointment' seems like such a shame not to give it a chance.

Disappointment sucks, but I don't think there is a relationship that will not suffer from it at some point in time, that doesn't mean you can't recover from it.

I met my husband when I was fifteen, we didn't get married until I was 22. Now there's been disappointment but doesn't mean the ride hasn't been worth it and things have just gotten better and better...as we reach our 13th wedding annnivsersary.

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[info]houses7177
2008-06-30 03:53 pm UTC (link)
You never really know how life will turn out, but I wholeheartedly agree with your burner philosophy. I was also a fan of turning the page when things didn't look promising and it worked just fine for me to date. *offers toast* To future random meetings around corners.

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 05:12 pm UTC (link)
*toasts in return*

Thank you muchly - I always try to take things as they come these days. You can only ever change yourself. People'll ever do what they do.

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[info]rianessa
2008-06-30 04:37 pm UTC (link)
I love this comment:

"Hopeless romantic ueber-nerds, yes. Stupid, no.

For some reason it makes me sigh. I don't know why.

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 05:12 pm UTC (link)
And it's so very, very true.

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[info]rocks_tonic
2008-06-30 04:43 pm UTC (link)
I can do the same Stupid Human Trick as your date. I've found it does impress guys, ha. Also, is it bad if a girl has the same name as your mom? I met a guy last week who said I share a name with his mom.

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[info]logan607
2008-06-30 05:13 pm UTC (link)
It is quite impressive, I won't lie.

As for the same name as my mom - just can't see myself saying all sorts of romantic/dirty talk to them while having my mom pop into my head.

In fact, right this second it's happening and it's no fun t'all...

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[info]aranka
2008-06-30 09:40 pm UTC (link)
I'm sorry. Nothin' else really to say. Sucks to try and fail.

Also . . . you can do the splits? I'm bendy but dang man.

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[info]logan607
2008-07-01 03:39 am UTC (link)
I can do a side split without stretching first (mostly).

I'm hoping to be able to do that for the rest of my life.

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[info]aranka
2008-07-01 07:08 am UTC (link)
Ugh I hate you, you ballarina. I've never had the splits. Close but no cigar. I attribute this to having crazily muscular rock hard legs that can't fit in normal pants but can kill at a distance of 50 metres.

Funny story: I went on a karate camp training thing one year and ended up training at Hitosubashi University in the worst days of summer. It was so hot, and I was sweating so terribly, that I went to warm up/stretch out, tried to do my crappy ass half a foot away center splits and sorta went *ploomph* onto the floor full splits. Had both sides too. It was cool but my tendons and ligaments fear a second go round of that.

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