logan607 ([info]logan607) wrote,
@ 2007-06-19 00:03:00
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Current location:1PM, yest., doctor's office
Current mood: sick
Entry tags:father's day, gratitude

Fathers and sons



I couldn't celebrate father's day because of the wedding. I saw him though.

My dad graduated from the second hardest law school in Japan - the equivalent of Princeton here. I graduated in the top third of my class; he graduated in the top 5%.

But, when he was younger than I am now, he came here to wash dishes and chop fish to feed his family. He didn't want us growing up there.

I realize now how hard it must have been to be 4,000 miles from home, not know the language and work at jobs far beneath you.

I can barely make it outta the Upper West Side.

He said my mom cried when he came home stinking of fish guts for the first time. She was the local beauty queen; he was now a fish monger.

I thought I married a lawyer, she said.
You once believed in me enough to marry me, he said, just wait.

She did and he became the man he knew he could be.

He says that he believed in himself even if no one else did.

He says that he believes in me. I'm actually a bit surprised he's still pulling for me.

At least you're not gutting fish; you're already doing better than I was.

I'd like to be the man I think I could be. I'd like to be the man he thinks I could be.

He doesn't know about this blog (don't tell him). But I wanna say, Thanks anyway.

I'm very grateful.

Music: daddy's rich And your ma is so good-looking
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[info]in_aeternum
2007-06-19 04:27 am UTC (link)
All the immigrants stories have the same ring to them. I know exactly what you talking about. My dad was a very powerful men where we came from. He didn't want us to grow up Russia, moved here worked 2 jobs, came home with no face on him. I was 13 years old, I was use to have best of the best, but all the sudden, I couldn't even ask him for a penny, I felt so guilty.
Our parents are amazing for sacrifices that they have made.
May they lives be full of laughter and joy.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 04:31 am UTC (link)
Yes, they deserve all the laughter and joy they can get.

He sounds like a great man.

You should write about him.

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[info]sometimessome
2007-06-19 06:03 am UTC (link)
You are right. All the stories are much the same. Only the places are different. We came from Latvia, probably for much the same reason you came from Russia.

It is because of this that it bothers me when people complain so much about America. I believe America is what you want it to be. If you think it sucks, it does, but for so many of us it is still the symbol of hope.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 12:49 pm UTC (link)
I was going to actually end this entry this way:

I'm glad we didn't stay abroad.

Too much bowing and the burgers are better here.

I love this joint.

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[info]oo_mimi_oo
2007-06-19 04:39 am UTC (link)
my dad owns his own business here in the philippines and he's pretty successful, but when we moved to richmond,bc when i was 8 he took tons of blue collar jobs to support his family. he was even a gas station clerk!

we're back here in the philippines and he's back to being the "boss" but i don't think he ever regretted taking those jobs..which is what i love about him.

i wish i could tell him how much i admire him, but we're not that kind of family :/

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 12:52 pm UTC (link)
That's why they make blogs - it's like whispering your stuff to the reeds.

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[info]veijukka
2007-06-19 05:07 am UTC (link)
I'd like to be the man I think I could be. I'd like to be the man he thinks I could be.

I think you had it right the first time.

Faith of our fathers. Your father sounds like a very impressive man.

I forgot to call mine yesterday. We are distant, though not estranged. I have not been a very good daughter for a very long time, not as good as I could be.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 12:55 pm UTC (link)
IMHO wealth is either time or money and of the two, time is the scarcer item.

My father and I fought the most outta my family but, as an adult, I see the stress he was under. Maybe that's why you're distant.

I dunno, for the most part, relationships are what you make them.

But phone calls are cheap now, yeah? =)

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[info]veijukka
2007-06-19 03:45 pm UTC (link)
My father made better use of time than money, as I think about it. Sometimes I wish we had fought more. We are distant because he doesn't know me and doesn't really want to...he has an idea of who his children should be, and that's all he'll see.

But I love him anyway, and I did call him last night. My long distance is obscenely cheap. :)

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[info]turtle5485
2007-06-19 05:19 am UTC (link)
very beautiful.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 12:57 pm UTC (link)
Thanks, I'm glad you liked it.

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[info]mylai
2007-06-19 09:46 am UTC (link)
from reading this, i wonder if i'm the son in the family. similar situation with my dad and he says the same thing to me.. never my brother.

also, i like reading your blog.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 01:02 pm UTC (link)
I wonder if/when I become a parent, how I'll treat each kid. It's hard to say.

Thanks - high praise coming from you. I'm flattered.

Rain taught me a new word the other day: "Logan's blog is like wearing black and listening to the Smiths before you shoot yourself; it's so f___ing emo."

I don't think so though, am I? To me emo is when you bitch all the time about your life. Me, except for the sleep and chick situation, I feel pretty damn lucky.

I'm an optimist. Whoever heard of an emo optimist?

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According to Hessian logic
[info]misterdoodyhead
2007-06-19 01:10 pm UTC (link)
The reason they're emo optimists is because they don't get beat up enough to become emo depressed.

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Re: According to Hessian logic
[info]logan607
2007-06-19 02:37 pm UTC (link)
hahahahaha

I got beat up plenty as a kid, I assure you.

I like the new look, bro.

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[info]sabatoa
2007-06-19 12:11 pm UTC (link)
People like your dad and my grandparents have made this country what it is today. He sounds amazing.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 01:04 pm UTC (link)
Thanks, I think he is too. Hell, anyone who gives me more credit than I'm due is amazing in my book.

Blog about your grandparents. I always like reading where people come from.

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awesome
[info]ly_ph78
2007-06-19 02:56 pm UTC (link)
in some ways, i think those who maintain a good relationship with at least one of their parents are among the luckiest people in the world :)

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Re: awesome
[info]logan607
2007-06-19 04:03 pm UTC (link)
There you are.

I agree!

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Hello there
[info]myeah
2007-06-19 03:10 pm UTC (link)
I found my way here through Outre...

What a beautiful entry. It makes me want to write, to share more. Perhaps I will. If you make your way to my journal, there is not much there...maybe that will change. Either way, its a pleasure to read your journal.

I think you have inspired me.

Two questions though....Have you regretted purchasing the camera? I hope not! and two...since you like juice and cereal...why do you stay away from them?

Heather

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Re: Hello there
[info]logan607
2007-06-19 04:07 pm UTC (link)
Hello Heather! I'm glad you like what I write. You're reader 94 on LJ; I'm hoping to break a 1,000 someday.

re: Q1 - No, but I've been insanely sick and busy the past week so I've not even had a chance to try it out. I'm excited to have some time to read every page of the manual (geek that I am) this week.

re: Q2 - Carbs and I don't get along and because of my memory.

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94 here....;)
[info]myeah
2007-06-19 08:00 pm UTC (link)
I am sorry you haven't been feeling to well, but at least you've found the time to read the manual. I must like the surprises I can learn a year later after owning something since I never seem to 'need' the manual. Ha.

and since I don't have a google account I will reply to your memory here.

Perhaps, if I were a heavy child and suffer the pains you did I wouldn't be a fat adult. I mean Fluffy, yes, fluffy. I hope one day I will have the drive and urge to change that. But until then, for the most part, I am ok with it. Would I be a different me if I were thinner? I hope not. I like me. and some times, skinny changes people. I really do beleive that.

But there is certainly nothing wrong with wanting to take care of yourself.

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[info]esoterian
2007-06-19 03:13 pm UTC (link)
Oh! what a man your father is

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 04:07 pm UTC (link)
I like to think so. =)

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[info]in_a_silver_bag
2007-06-19 03:37 pm UTC (link)
Good post, got me thinking quite some.

Your dad believes in you and is proud of you because you are his son and not because you live, organize, reorganize... whatever... your life this or that way.

That's the way I was taught by my parents. I was lucky.

Love the song!

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 04:08 pm UTC (link)
Thanks, is there a Father's Day there as well? When is it?

As for my father believing in me, I actually don't want him to believe in me because I'm his son; I'm hoping that he sees something in me that I don't.

I love that song too.

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[info]in_a_silver_bag
2007-06-19 11:02 pm UTC (link)
Here you go. I guess I'm not the only one who missed it around here.

I'm too sleepy at the moment to argue about the second part, but I do hope he'll be able to show you some time in case you don't see it yourself.

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[info]kastinkerbell
2007-06-19 07:14 pm UTC (link)
This is beautiful in so many ways.
I don't know how to articulate it.

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 08:26 pm UTC (link)
Thank you, very kind.

I return to the usual womanizing posts shortly.

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[info]daiseefut
2007-06-19 07:31 pm UTC (link)
A very, very touching story. Made me think of my dad. ;)
I agree with first commenter. Coming from a family that immigrated here and started out with nothing to get us to where we are now, it's absolutely amazing what our parents had to go through for us. Maybe one day, I'll blog about them too. :)

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[info]logan607
2007-06-19 08:27 pm UTC (link)
You should. I'd love to read about it.

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[info]mary_lennox
2007-06-19 10:16 pm UTC (link)
Wow, reading this just made me think back on everything my folks have done and I feel suddenly very ashamed of being so selfish. I wish I could have seen my dad on Father's Day; he's done so much and without complaining. It's mind-boggling sometimes.

My parents also immigrated here (from India) and my dad (a nuclear engineer) worked so many menial jobs before he could regain his former job.

It's amazing now I think of it, what our parents have done for us - I just hope that some day I can make it up to them.

(What a wonderful family picture by the way, your mother is beautiful!)

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[info]logan607
2007-06-22 12:55 am UTC (link)
Thanks you; they all work hard.

She was a beauty queen once. I think it was hard on her when she was younger.

But it all worked out.

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[info]benlbr
2007-09-11 08:23 pm UTC (link)
this really hit a note with me. hope you don't mind that i peruse around for a bit. you've got some good entries that i've skimmed through, but haven't gotten a chance to absorb the material enough to comment.

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[info]logan607
2007-09-12 01:22 pm UTC (link)
Thanks so much - I hope you find it entertaining. I try to keep it light but last night was just difficult because of the anniversary of 9/11.

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